Drifting away from someone or something you had loved or was attached to could either be relaxing or disturbing. What is more difficult or perhaps the hardest is to let go of the emotions, attachments, and feelings. The hardest thing about change is letting go of what you were comfortable with and going forward with something you are not.
We all have experienced these feelings and emotions multiple times in our lives. When we had our first heartbreak or when we lose our loved ones or when someone whom we loved immensely betrays us.
While I have closely felt and experienced the pain of losing my father, I could still manage to lift myself after a few years and accept that he is around me, always blessing me and motivating me to move forward. Whenever I feel low or miss him, I have his emails and pictures, mentioning how proud he is of me and that his blessings are with me till eternity. Somehow, his encouraging words of wisdom have always helped me to move forward to achieve bigger and better.
Everyone has a different mechanism to deal with losing their near and dear ones, but I chose to celebrate his life instead. I chose to be happy always as this is what he always wanted, I chose to make him proud, I chose to continue his legacy, spreading love and happiness forever…
Losing any loved one is painful, yet it heals with time, while memories remain forever, we still move on with sweet remembrance.
However, another feeling which we often experience in our lives is betrayal, which often leaves us bitter. The saddest and most hard thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.
A betrayal from your own family is extremely devastating than a betrayal among friends, or even lovers. Betrayal happens on many different levels all the time, and there is no worse feeling than realizing someone you thought you could trust has gone against you.
Just because a person doesn’t touch you physically, doesn’t mean they aren’t abusive. Abuse is control, arrogance, jealousy, negativity, disrespect, and hurtful words. Don’t settle for emotional abuse thinking it’s ok because it’s not physical.
Life is not all about who looks real on your face, it’s about who is really behind your back, genuinely.
So, what do I do if other people hurt me? Well, that’s their problem, their character, and their actions, which are not mine. We must distrust each other; It is our only way and defense against betrayal. Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer care about us.
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The essence of life dealing with betrayal is unless you LET GO, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that situation is over, you cannot move forward.
I know it’s very funny that how sometimes the people you would take a bullet for …. Are the ones behind the trigger. But you need to accept that, a “Snake” never loses its characteristics of being dangerous and poisonous. So, you should not wonder if someone behaves insanely even after years of loving and supporting them, it’s because of the characteristics of that human analogous to a snake, who can never be your pet, no matter how much you love or nurture.
Don’t worry. People who lie or cheat or betray you are just life’s way of making you realize the importance of the people who don’t need to be around you. Stay away from negative, jealous, and complaining people, surround yourself with people who genuinely love you and keep you motivated.
It takes a very strong individual to sit with themselves, calm their storms, and heal all their issues without trying to bring someone else into the chaos. Your journey into self-love is just that—and we all should practice doing it.
Ending this wonderful October month theme of “Letting Go” with this beautiful famous quote.
“I’ve been stabbed in the back by those I needed most. I’ve been lied to by those I love. And I have felt alone when I couldn’t afford to be. But at the end of the day, I had to learn to be my own best friend because there’s going to be days where no one is going to be there for me but myself!”
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Mental health needs not to be discussed only on 10th October every year. It impacts your well-being every second. Here is what usually works for me in times of despair …
Take Sips of life as it comes, take one day at a time, focus on what all is right in your life than focus on wrongs, let the smallest ray of hope brighten your day, let your eyes soak the universe’s energy. Just take it easy and be grateful to God that you are LIVING.
Breathe, breathe, breathe… this is the only thing that is yours and in your control. Breathe and believe … it will all be OKAY one day!!
Season’s greetings to all my wonderful readers, May the sun radiate peace, prosperity, and happiness in your lives.